Comments on: Why I Am Quiet

By: Mark Stosberg

Mark Stosberg — Fri, 16 Mar 2007 02:19:29 +0000

I'm with Travis. I don't mind the label "introvert", but I think about as meaning "how I recharge?". I believe his Myers-Briggs reference was correct. It says the terms extrovert and intravert "show how a person orients and receives their energy".

By: etbnc

etbnc — Thu, 15 Mar 2007 22:36:47 +0000

This afternoon I have been unable to get away from the sound of leaf blowers, leaf blowers wielded by manly men, who apparently have no business meetings to dominate today.

I'd like to see a study of the correlation of personality types and leaf blower ownership.

By: Travis

Travis — Wed, 14 Mar 2007 19:53:25 +0000

I'm a quiet man, too...but I do identify as an introvert in the sense that I get my energy from solitude and quiet, as oposed to extroverts who are energized by people. If I remember corectly, this definition comes from Myers-Briggs typology, and on the test I am 100% introverted. Sometimes people just urk me; not because of anything about them, but because they are people and it drains me to be around too many people, especialy extroverts, all at one time. I want to be better about being arond people, but it's a struggle sometimes.

But when I am in a discussion group, especially class, I tend to speak a lot more, because I learn best with language: speaking, hearing, reading and writing. When catch myself, I try and pull back so that I others may speak, and so that I can learn from them as well, especially when women are the ones being quiet.

I personally love quiet and solitude, and try to get as much of it as I can each day. I know I must pull myself out of myself every day as well, but if I am constantly outside of myself, I get worn out very quickly. I tend to hang out with just a few people at a time, even just one other person for most of a day, when I'm with people at all.

There are times to be quiet and alone, times to be quiet and with others, and times to be loud and outspoken. Timing is the key.

By: writewrite » Blog Archive » S T

writewrite » Blog Archive » S T — Wed, 14 Mar 2007 11:45:52 +0000

[...] I just read Chris Hardie’s post on the value of quietness LINK and couldn’t help but consider the next few days before spring break. They are, predictably, crammed with meetings, everyone getting in a last ditch effort to get things done before we all go our separate ways for a week. My head aches just thinking about these meetings ahead which will be, yes, crammed with loudness, the noise of disagreement, posturing, one-ups-manship, extended arguments and counterarguments, words on top of words. This is academic noise, the sound of adults talking and talking and talking. Chris’s post centers on the gendered aspect of loudness, and it is true that men do … shall we say… hold forth. Alas, women in academia have taken this as a good model, and grimly hold their own, interrupting colleagues, holding forth much too long, pounding the table when it’s warranted, etc etc etc. [...]

By: Dayna

Dayna — Tue, 13 Mar 2007 01:13:17 +0000

I thought introvert referred to people who recieved their energy from being alone and extroverts gained energy from being with others. Both could be more interested in their own stuff than in others and both extroversion and introversion can be used to manipulate others or situations.
Conversely, either can add immensely to any social situation...but one gets charged and the other drained.

It's nice to read your writing again.